The inability to get or maintain an erection is the most important sexual problem that can be of concern to a man. The old term “impotence” reflects the feelings caused by such a fiasco. When considering a sexual relationship, this word is almost useless as it means any erectile dysfunction – from just a single incident caused by a minor reason to the inability to get an erection ever under any circumstances.
Difficulties getting an erection. Sometimes it is difficult to get an erection or maintain it, for example after stress, disease or extreme tiredness. Most men have such moments. However, if such episodes have become a rule rather then an exception, seek your doctor’s advice: such a problem may have a medical cause. You should definitely go to the doctors’ if you have never had an erection under any circumstances. This problem is likely to have a physiological origin.
However, physical and hormonal reasons are relatively rare. In most cases permanent nonperformance has a psychological reason. The problem may originate from a feeling of guilt inserted in childhood. It also may develop from the monotony in long-lasting relationships. Such a problem is very likely to occur if one or two minor incidents have become a deep concern about the sexual potency of a man. The psychological condition of a person called “concerns about the result” interrupts the ability to get or maintain an erection.
An accidental erectile failure.
You sometimes failed to get an erection when you wanted it or your erection was not complete or you may have lost it at the most important moment. This may happen if you start having sex you do not really want or if a person with whom you are trying to have sex does not seem attractive to you at all. Sometimes it is difficult to get an erection if you are feeling anxious before the first sexual encounter with a new partner, or you are feeling guilty if the relationship is illicit. Temporary failures are meaningful only if you label yourself an impotent and insert a compulsive idea that you are going to have a problem in the future.
How to prevent erectile dysfunction.
If you think the episodes when you fail have become more frequent, your self? Expectations are probably too high and you are trying to complete a sexual transaction in impropriate conditions. We suggest you should use some methods listed below to help yourself draw the number of failures to a minimum. Even more important is that they will help you avoid anxiety which may lead to a long-lasting problem.
Have sex only when you feel like it. Take it for granted that you are a man and not a machine. Your feelings and sexual drive should not necessarily always stay the same. Sometimes you are more ready for sex, and sometimes you need more stimulation. Your partner may not understand it until you tell them about it.
Avoid occasional sex at least until your self-confidence increases. You will worry less and perform better if you manage to create a stable relationship with your partner whom you trust and whose reaction you know.
If you fail to get an erection or you lose it just before sex, try not to get too disparaged. Just explain to the partner what it happened – “I think I am probably very tired (have drunk too much) tonight. Let’s try tomorrow morning”. Do not feel guilty. At the same time try to convince your partner that this is not their fault. The most important is not to give up both physically and mentally just because sexual intercourse seems to be failing at the moment. Be close with your partner in any other way you both like, excluding coitus. If you enjoy being together no matter if you have an erection or not, you will be less worried about a possible failure next time.
